Discussing her past relationships and her battle with sex addiction, a British woman, Frankie Considine, revealed her history of sleeping with 130 men by the age of 28. This included engaging with four men within 24 hours on her 21st birthday.
Recounting her struggles, Considine admitted to calling in sick at work and canceling plans with friends to satisfy her urges. She disclosed that her addiction had severe repercussions on her mental and physical well-being, leading to depression, unidentified pregnancies, and contracting multiple STIs.
Opening up to Fabulous Digital, Frankie elaborated on how her parents’ divorce and her body image issues influenced her behavior, causing her to cheat in a long-term relationship. She shared, “Even though I loved it, I was having sex with someone at least every fortnight.”
Following her mother’s death, Frankie ended her relationship and began engaging in casual encounters. Over the next three years, she estimates sleeping with 80 men, some in one-night stands and others through multiple hook-ups.
She explained, “I wasn’t interested in drinking or taking drugs. Sex was my coping mechanism. It was very much about the thrill of the sex but also the intimacy, being with someone close to you, which replaced the loss of my mum.”
At 22, she faced a pregnancy with six possible partners, leading her to choose to terminate the pregnancy. In later years, she dealt with an on-off relationship and eventually gave birth to a baby girl.
After the breakup, Frankie sought therapy and was diagnosed with sex addiction at 26. She expressed, “There is so much stigma around being a sex addict. People think it’s an excuse, but we aren’t sl*ts. It’s a genuine illness.”
Currently, she has adopted a more reserved approach and expressed her fear of falling back into her previous patterns. She stated, “I’m very reserved now. If I’m seeing someone, I don’t want to have sex straight away. If they initiate it or want to talk about it, they almost get blocked from my phone – I’m that fearful. I’m scared if I sleep with them too soon, will I go back down the spiral?”